Vows writing 1. Write down a list of words that immedi- ately come to mind when you think about your partner. Use those words as inspiration when you get stuck. 2. Don’t take it too seriously or stress out about making it perfect. They should reflect your relationship! Working too hard to find the perfect adjective or making your words sound poetic will come across as insincere, so just speak from your heart! 3. If you get stuck, walk away from it to clear your head. 4. Practice makes perfect! Read your vows out loud at least 3 times to make sure it sounds smooth but not rehearsed and that you’re not talking too fast. PERSONAL VOWS TRADITIONAL VOWS You have an epic or unexpected love story You’re not known for your writing skills You want to reflect on your relationship in the months leading up to your wedding You hate public speaking You value individuality and will have a unique wedding You value tradition You want to acknowledge specific promises like “I vow to accept every dog you adopt… even when we have 36.” You want to make sure the sacred marital promises are recognized and agreed upon. You want to ugly cry.* You want to ugly cry* *There’s no getting out of that. Whether you’re listening to your fiancé read his/her heartfelt personalized vows or reciting that you’ll love him/her ‘til death do you part, you can’t escape the ugly cry. SHOULD YOU WRITE PERSONAL OR USE TRADITIONAL VOWS? WRITING VOWS 136 | TELL VENDORS YOU SAW THEIR AD IN TODAY’S BRIDE